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July 23, 2004

Books And Excerpts From Books

I did time. But I didn't waste all of my time. And now that I look back - sometimes I just don't understand - why I didn't write down more thoroughly - or more correctly - the many books and authors that I took excerpts from. Unless - I'm just missing certain things.

You see - you'll discover in the Books section - that I have good notes on the Books and Authors I mention. Yet, I have sheets and sheets of hand written notes and book excerpts - that I don't know who to give credit to. And this is very important to me. So - I'll do some research and find out - where these words of wisdom came from. If you see something that you think that you might have read before - and find the book and/or author - please let me know.

I begin today with this unknown philosophy writing. Because I don't know the Book - I don't really know how this excerpt begins - I will shoot out - what I've found and hope for the best. Meaning - that I hope that it makes some sense - after it is all tied together.

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There is one and only one person in this world who has the power to threaten your self-esteem - and that is you. Your sense of worth can go down only if you put yourself down. The real solution is to put an end to your absurd inner harangue.

Another distortion characteristic of anger generating thoughts is mind reading - you invent motives that explains to your satisfaction why the other person did what he or she did. These hypotheses are frequently erroneous because they will not describe the actual thoughts and perceptions that motivated the other person. Due to your indignation, it may not occur to you to check out what your are saying to yourself.

Irrational statements rest on your assumption that you are entitled to instant gratification at all times. So on those occasions when you don't get what you want, you go into panic or rage because of your attitude that unless you get X, you will either die or be tragically deprived of joy forever (X can represent love, affection, status, respect, promptness, perfection, niceness etc.). This insistence that your wants be gratified at all times is the basis for much self-defeating anger. People who are anger-prone often formulate their desires in moralistic terms such as this: If I'm nice to someone, they should be appreciative.

The perception of unfairness or injustice is the ultimate cause of most, if not all, anger. In fact, we could define anger as the emotion which corresponds in a one-to-one manner to your belief that you are being treated unfairly.

[Authors note - apparently this excerpt - IS - about Anger. That is good. I'm glad that I saved this]

[Excerpts From Books - To Be Continued]

Posted by Nealus at July 23, 2004 05:20 PM

Comments

Nealus - wow, this is a great excerpt. The kind of stuff that you wonder about but can never put into words... and here it is, clear as day!

can I use a piece of this excerpt on my blog, with a link to you, of course?

Posted by: menina at July 26, 2004 08:34 AM

Yes Menina - Yes you can - and thanks.

Nealus

Posted by: Nealus [TypeKey Profile Page] at July 26, 2004 09:48 AM

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